Henrietta W. Dabney, one of state's oldest active funeral directors, dies at 86
Sep 1, 2017Being a funeral director and simultaneously being a nurse was an advantage for Henrietta Catherine Wiley Dabney.“A funeral has an emotional impact and sometimes people would fall out in the pews,” said her son, Floyd Everett Dabney Jr. of Ashland.“She would be there to comfort them and to administer smelling salts.”Mrs. Dabney, who had owned F.E. Dabney Funeral Home in Ashland since the death of her husband in January 2006, died Tuesday at home of complications of a stroke she suffered in May 2014.The 86-year-old Ashland resident, who was one of the oldest active funeral directors in Virginia, will be honored at a funeral at 1 p.m. Wednesday at Shiloh Baptist Church, 106 S. James St. in Ashland, where she was a member. Burial will be in the church cemetery.Mrs. Dabney went into the funeral business when she married in 1952, her son said.Her husband, Floyd Everett Dabney Sr., returned from military service, became a licensed funeral director and supplemented his income by driving a cab.Mrs. Dabney became a licensed funeral director during the 1960s. “In those days you could get a license to direct funerals but not to embalm. When they changed it (so you had to do both), she was grandfathered in,” her son said.They established F.E. Dabney Funeral Home in 1955. “One of the main jobs my mom had was manning the phones,” her son said.“There were no cellphones, no pagers. (When he was out driving the cab,) “she would have to track him down to let him know that he had business,” her son said.“There was a phone in downtown Ashland beside Cross’s Grocery Store that was a call-phone for cab drivers. That was one of the first places she would call.”Besides attending to phones, she would console families and assist at funerals.Her husband’s brother, Claudius “Mick” Dabney, also worked with them. He died in November 2005. Floyd Dabney Sr. died two months later. Their deaths left the business in a predicament.“I had my degree but was not licensed. Mom was licensed but couldn’t embalm. We opera... (Richmond.com)